Wedding hairstyles: Dos and Don’ts for your dream hair:

Last week we talked about makeup. This week we are looking at how to get the perfect hairstyle for your special day. While the same sort guidelines apply to both hair and makeup, there are some extra little dos and don’ts when it comes to getting your dream hairstyle.

Dress first, then hairstyle:

Maybe you have always dreamed about a classic chignon for your wedding day or longed for long gorgeous mermaid waves. However, don’t wear your hair a certain way just because that is how you always planned to. Necklines, silhouettes, and formality of your dress can sometimes be a complete opposite of your dream hairstyle. Long, flowy, strapless gowns are going to look odd with a fancy updo just like relaxed beach waves are going to seem out of place with a formal ball gown. 

Don’t forget the trial run

Just like your makeup, flying blind the day of your wedding isn’t ideal. You are to be nervous and excited, so making sure you know what hairstyle you are going with is one way to cut down on the anxiety all brides feel. Also, make sure you take photos of the style the day of the trial. This way you will know how it looks in photos and can make comments and ask for changes you want.  

Listen to the stylist: 

They are the professional and understand what your hair can and cannot do. They will know what styling products to use, how to incorporate the accessories you have chosen, and how to make sure your hair is picture perfect all day long. That said, don’t let them talk you into a style you aren’t comfortable with. Communication is key to getting a hairstyle which will work for you, but that you love and will be timeless. 

When to go bold: 

Most wedding advice sites will tell you to stick to simple or classic dos for your wedding and not make any drastic changes to the colour or basic style of your hair right before your wedding. While this is good advice, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a highly stylized look on your wedding day. Sometimes bold statement hair is the way to go. If you are a fashion forward bride, who isn’t afraid to make a bold statement, go ahead and have a style which is as fabulous and daring as you are. This is especially true if you are having a super formal or themed wedding, which can sometimes call for hair which is a little more standout than usual. Don’t be afraid to embrace your inner fashionista if that is who you are. 

Wedding Makeup dos and don’ts, plus a few other tips:

Some of the best wedding makeup advice we have ever heard is: remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint. And even though when you look back it may feel like your day was over in a flash, it actually lasted for hours, busy and jam-packed hours. So here are some great tips to make sure your makeup stays photo ready all day long. 

Don’t Forget To Plan:

There are few things you are going to want to take into account as you are planning your wedding look: what season you are getting married in, the time of day, and how long the festivities are going to last. Just like for your everyday look, the makeup you choose is going to be different if you are getting married in May than if you have planned a November wedding. Same thing goes for if it is a daytime event or a nighttime one or if it goes from day to night. Also, make sure the look you have planned is really similar to what you would normally wear. Now isn’t the time to experiment or go full glam if that isn’t your thing. Natural looks are a far better option, as they will look timeless and classic in photos. 

It’s All About The Prep: 

Think of your skin like a canvass. You are going to want to make sure you have best there is. Ideally, getting regular facials leading up to the wedding is the best way to prep your skin, but that often isn’t an option. However, by drinking lots of water and following a good skin care regiment or gently cleansers, moisturizes for your skin type, and plenty of SPF, your skin should be in great shape. 

The Trial Run: 

A few weeks before the big day, you should do a trial run, or two, of your makeup. This is to make sure you have the look you want nailed down and that any products you use don’t cause irritation while you are wearing them. This will also give you a good idea how the makeup will last through the day.

A Couple More Dos: 

You are bound to cry at some point during the day, so make sure you eye makeup, especially your mascara, is waterproof. Also, don’t forget the setting spray.
Keep a small bag with the foundation and lip product you are wearing easily accessible for quick touchups throughout the day.
Be sure you choose a lipstick which is long lasting and comfortable on your lips. 

One Last Thing: 

We normally don’t do product promotion on our page. We are making an exception this time to talk a little about cruelty free products and give some great suggestions at every price point, but especially focusing on budget friendly options. We believe that ethical beauty doesn’t have to be pricey. 

Budget Friendly Options:
Wet n Wild: For bolder brides on a budget, includes vegan options.
Nyx: One of our favourites. Great long-lasting products, includes vegan options.
ELF: Another great option, unfortunately no vegan options.
Pixie: Verging on midrange includes vegan options.
Milani: Great pigments and selection of shades
Essence: Available all-over North America and Europe. 

Midrange options:
Too Faced: Their Born This Way collection has an amazing shade range and includes vegan options
Tarte: Great natural ingredients and includes vegan options
Urban Decay: Their Up All Night Setting spray may be the best on the market.
Smashbox: Their primers are an industry standard.
Cover FX: 100% vegan!

High End:
Charlotte Tilbury: On the lower end of the high end list, the makeup artist with this brand will help you create a one of a kind look to match your personality. Includes vegan options
Marc Jacobs: One thing to remember with this brand is while their makeup is cruelty free, their perfume isn’t.

Tips on How to Give a Great Wedding Speech:

Writing and delivering a speech can be difficult under the best of circumstances. However, making sure you create a moving tribute to the love at a loved one’s wedding can make the task seem almost impossible. We have come up some helpful hints to make sure you give an impactful and memorable speech. 

Have a Plan:

While you may think you can just get up and talk, it is actually almost impossible to do that without it coming across as rambling. You don’t have to write the whole thing out (although we do suggest this), you should have at least some notes on what you want to say and maybe a famous quote or two about the power of love. Not only does it help you focus in on the aspects of what makes the couple’s love special, it also lets them know you love them enough to prepare a little. 

Know Your Audience:

Odds are more than likely you have helped with the wedding preparations in some way. Maybe you helped address envelopes or were at some pre-wedding function. So, you should have a good idea of the guest list and if you need to keep it kid (and grandparent) friendly or if some slightly more adult humor is ok. In general, however, try to keep the raunchier jokes and stories for the hen and stag parties. There are just some stories Aunt Jeanie doesn’t need to hear. 

Keep It Short:

Most wedding speeches come between courses at the reception. So, while a 30 second speech is too short, 5 minutes or less is the perfect amount of time. This gives you time to tell some sweet story you have about when you knew the couple was meant to be, talk about how much you love them both and the power of their love, without keeping the catering staff (and other guests) waiting for the next course to be served. Plus, it will keep the background chatter down if you don’t go on for 20 minutes. 


Remember, as much as you may want to share personal stories about how you met the bride in high school in detention or the time you and the groom went to Cabo on spring break and got hammered, don’t. This speech isn’t about you and your relationship with either the bride or groom. It is about them. It is about celebrating their love. So, by all means, mention how you have known whomever you are standing up with forever and how much you love that person, just make sure the toast is about the love the couple has for each other and how you wish them a long and happy life together.  Also, be sure to speak from the heart and don’t try to get too funny or sentimental.  Sincerity is way better than sentimentality. 

Why we are not super active on Social Media

I know Social Media is an important way to stay in touch and connect. But after the recent scandal involving Facebook and data theft I just do not feel comfortable about using it as a business and unknowingly and unwillingly perhaps exposing you to something equally disturbing. Data of 87 million users was acquired. 87 million. That is equal to the entire population of Europe’s biggest country: Germany. And we are only speaking of ONE app and ONE company. Where does it end?

So I have decided to take steps because one of the many things we care about at Plan Your Own Wedding is making sure all of your information is safe and secure. This is why, despite helping couples all over the world to plan their perfect wedding, we have chosen to have our email hosting servers located in Europe where privacy laws are much stricter. What this means is your private information is only used to keep you updated on new blog posts, when we publish new course materials, and any other wedding-based information we have published around the web. It also means we can never, and will never, give or sell your info to third party vendors. This is also why we have a minimal presence on social media, to make sure your details stay as secure as we can make it.
Our goal is to help you plan your wedding as stress free as possible. What we don’t want is you having to worry about whether or not your data is secure or if you are going to be bombarded with tons of emails from vendors you didn’t sign up for. So, sit back, relax, and know that your information is safe with us.


Wedding and Event planning – my beginnings

Many ask me, how did you become a Wedding and Event Planner?

I guess it all started while I studied. I studied Fashion Design and in my second semester the academy put on a Fashion show for the graduate students. They needed someone to volunteer working backstage and it seemed fun to me.

Now – organising backstage of a fashion show is much more challenging then you might think. The first time i was only”in charge of four models. And although you are not in charge of hair and make-up you are responsible for everything else. Every model has several outfits, so not only you have to hang the clothes in the right order (meaning the order that they show it on the catwalk) but also all the accessories (earrings, tights, neglects, shoes etc. etc etc) with them, make sure they get dressed in time (30-45 seconds sometimes) see to it all the zippers are up, any fallen off buttons sown back on, tape dresses tighter if needed and so on. And not for with one model but four. Really, really stressful – but I loved every second of it!

So much that after the show two of the models I was in charge of asked me if I had done this before. And as I declined they said I was really good at it and if i wanted them to pass on my name to their agencies because they were always looking for backstage crew.

And so I subsidised my student days by organising fashion shows backstage, not the being ones, but local high-end boutiques and department stores, fashion fairs and exhibitions. Starting being responsible for some models to being in charge of it all.

And organising complex events has stuck with me since.

Looking forward hearing from you,

Beatrice Betley