Winter Weddings: What to Wear!

When thinking about winter fashion choices, people tend to think of heavy layers, lots of fake fur, velvets, and wool. However, that doesn’t have to be the case, especially when it comes to dressing wedding. Here are some helpful hints on how to keep warm while still having your dream dress. 

Bring out your inner princess with brocade:

A rather heavy and luxurious looking fabric, brocade can be lovely way to keep warm during a winter wedding. Consisting of patterns stitched into the fabric itself, it creates a visually interesting aesthetic and adds a little glamour to your dress. Since most people associate brocade with the renaissance and nobility, it can help bring a little sumptuousness to your look and make you feel like a princess. 

Go For High Glam In Silk Mikado:

Don’t let the name fool you, silk Mikado is another great choice for getting www.planyourownwedding.or-winterclothesmarried in winter. While typically silk is thought of as a light airy fabric, silk Mikado is heavier and far more structured, so it creates a little bit of weight and insulation against the cold. Plus, the sheen of the dress creates a definite old Hollywood feel, and ups the glam factor to any wedding. 

Think About Wraps and Shrugs: 

Just because temperatures are lower, doesn’t mean you have to give up your dream of a sleeveless or backless dress. Why not consider a lovely long-sleeved shrug during the ceremony and then go bared shouldered during the reception, where you have a little more say over how warm the room will be? Wraps can also be a classy way to keep bare skin warm, while not sacrificing your sense of style. 

Don’t Forget Your Bridesmaids: 

Remember, your dress is going to have way more fabric than the ladies you have chosen to stand up with you. So, make sure you keep them warm and toasty, so they aren’t shivering their way through the ceremony and reception. Their dresses should be made of heavier material too, have wraps and shrugs ready, and, if it matches your aesthetic, gloves, just incase their hands get cold.  

Wedding hairstyles: Dos and Don’ts for your dream hair:

Last week we talked about makeup. This week we are looking at how to get the perfect hairstyle for your special day. While the same sort guidelines apply to both hair and makeup, there are some extra little dos and don’ts when it comes to getting your dream hairstyle.

Dress first, then hairstyle:

Maybe you have always dreamed about a classic chignon for your wedding day or longed for long gorgeous mermaid waves. However, don’t wear your hair a certain way just because that is how you always planned to. Necklines, silhouettes, and formality of your dress can sometimes be a complete opposite of your dream hairstyle. Long, flowy, strapless gowns are going to look odd with a fancy updo just like relaxed beach waves are going to seem out of place with a formal ball gown. 

Don’t forget the trial run

Just like your makeup, flying blind the day of your wedding isn’t ideal. You are to be nervous and excited, so making sure you know what hairstyle you are going with is one way to cut down on the anxiety all brides feel. Also, make sure you take photos of the style the day of the trial. This way you will know how it looks in photos and can make comments and ask for changes you want.  

Listen to the stylist: 

They are the professional and understand what your hair can and cannot do. They will know what styling products to use, how to incorporate the accessories you have chosen, and how to make sure your hair is picture perfect all day long. That said, don’t let them talk you into a style you aren’t comfortable with. Communication is key to getting a hairstyle which will work for you, but that you love and will be timeless. 

When to go bold: 

Most wedding advice sites will tell you to stick to simple or classic dos for your wedding and not make any drastic changes to the colour or basic style of your hair right before your wedding. While this is good advice, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a highly stylized look on your wedding day. Sometimes bold statement hair is the way to go. If you are a fashion forward bride, who isn’t afraid to make a bold statement, go ahead and have a style which is as fabulous and daring as you are. This is especially true if you are having a super formal or themed wedding, which can sometimes call for hair which is a little more standout than usual. Don’t be afraid to embrace your inner fashionista if that is who you are. 

Wedding Makeup dos and don’ts, plus a few other tips:

Some of the best wedding makeup advice we have ever heard is: remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint. And even though when you look back it may feel like your day was over in a flash, it actually lasted for hours, busy and jam-packed hours. So here are some great tips to make sure your makeup stays photo ready all day long. 

Don’t Forget To Plan:

There are few things you are going to want to take into account as you are planning your wedding look: what season you are getting married in, the time of day, and how long the festivities are going to last. Just like for your everyday look, the makeup you choose is going to be different if you are getting married in May than if you have planned a November wedding. Same thing goes for if it is a daytime event or a nighttime one or if it goes from day to night. Also, make sure the look you have planned is really similar to what you would normally wear. Now isn’t the time to experiment or go full glam if that isn’t your thing. Natural looks are a far better option, as they will look timeless and classic in photos. 

It’s All About The Prep: 

Think of your skin like a canvass. You are going to want to make sure you have best there is. Ideally, getting regular facials leading up to the wedding is the best way to prep your skin, but that often isn’t an option. However, by drinking lots of water and following a good skin care regiment or gently cleansers, moisturizes for your skin type, and plenty of SPF, your skin should be in great shape. 

The Trial Run: 

A few weeks before the big day, you should do a trial run, or two, of your makeup. This is to make sure you have the look you want nailed down and that any products you use don’t cause irritation while you are wearing them. This will also give you a good idea how the makeup will last through the day.

A Couple More Dos: 

You are bound to cry at some point during the day, so make sure you eye makeup, especially your mascara, is waterproof. Also, don’t forget the setting spray.
Keep a small bag with the foundation and lip product you are wearing easily accessible for quick touchups throughout the day.
Be sure you choose a lipstick which is long lasting and comfortable on your lips. 

One Last Thing: 

We normally don’t do product promotion on our page. We are making an exception this time to talk a little about cruelty free products and give some great suggestions at every price point, but especially focusing on budget friendly options. We believe that ethical beauty doesn’t have to be pricey. 

Budget Friendly Options:
Wet n Wild: For bolder brides on a budget, includes vegan options.
Nyx: One of our favourites. Great long-lasting products, includes vegan options.
ELF: Another great option, unfortunately no vegan options.
Pixie: Verging on midrange includes vegan options.
Milani: Great pigments and selection of shades
Essence: Available all-over North America and Europe. 

Midrange options:
Too Faced: Their Born This Way collection has an amazing shade range and includes vegan options
Tarte: Great natural ingredients and includes vegan options
Urban Decay: Their Up All Night Setting spray may be the best on the market.
Smashbox: Their primers are an industry standard.
Cover FX: 100% vegan!

High End:
Charlotte Tilbury: On the lower end of the high end list, the makeup artist with this brand will help you create a one of a kind look to match your personality. Includes vegan options
Marc Jacobs: One thing to remember with this brand is while their makeup is cruelty free, their perfume isn’t.

It’s not all about hen and stag do’s: try this!

If Hollywood movies were to be believed, weddings celebrations would be nothing more than a few showers, hen and stag dos, a rehearsal dinner, and culminating with the ceremony. However, in most cultures that simply isn’t the case. There are tons of amazing and beautiful traditions from around the world which take place during the week leading up to the wedding and during the ceremony. Here is a list of our favorites. 

Breaking Dishes In Germany:

While wedding ceremonies in Germany tend to be just close friends and family, Polterabend is when the couple invites colleagues and their wider circle of friends to laugh, eat, drink, and then break old dishes that the guest brought with them and which the couple then has to sweep up together. This joint clean up of all the broken pottery represents the couple dealing with all of life’s trials and tribulations as a team and working together to overcome any obstacle. 

The Mehndi Ceremony: 

Indian weddings tend to be week long events filled with dance, song, eating, finally the wedding itself. One of the most famous parts of this week is the Mehndi ceremony, where the bride and other women’s hands and feet are decorated with traditional and intricate designs. Traditionally used as a way to calm and ground the bride before the wedding, now it is a lovely way to add a little good luck to the bride and groom, who is now often part of the ceremony too. 

Let’s Get Ready To Shop:

In Nigeria, the Igbo Tribe presents the groom to be with a dowry list to find and give to the family before the couple is allowed to be married. There can items ranging from food and clothing to harder to find objects like alligator teeth, just to add a little challenge for the future groom. If the bride is highly educated, the dowry can get bigger, providing a bigger challenge. 

13 Coins:

In Mexico, grooms present brides with 13 gold coins, called arras. The gifting of these coins symbolizes the trust the groom has for the bride with his finances. She accepts them with the promise to handle them with care and responsibility. The coins, which represent Christ and the apostles, are given in an ornate box on a silver tray, to bring good luck and prosperity to the marriage. 

Ceremonial Tea: 

In China, the newly wedded couple, come together and serve tea to both sets of parents. This is to honor all the love and support parents have given to the bride and groom. It is also a way the couple signifies their new relationships with their in-laws, by referring to everyone by their new names as the young couple serves tea to everyone.

War Dance At A Wedding:

While traditionally, the Haka is a war dance used mainly as an intimidation tactic to scare the opposing side, it is now being performed at Maori weddings. The bride’s family uses the Haka as a way to test the groom’s bravery and dedication to the bride. The men of the bride’s family and bridesmaids stand in front of the couple and call out the groom, who then responds by performing a haka back at them to prove his love for the bride. 

Tips on How to Give a Great Wedding Speech:

Writing and delivering a speech can be difficult under the best of circumstances. However, making sure you create a moving tribute to the love at a loved one’s wedding can make the task seem almost impossible. We have come up some helpful hints to make sure you give an impactful and memorable speech. 

Have a Plan:

While you may think you can just get up and talk, it is actually almost impossible to do that without it coming across as rambling. You don’t have to write the whole thing out (although we do suggest this), you should have at least some notes on what you want to say and maybe a famous quote or two about the power of love. Not only does it help you focus in on the aspects of what makes the couple’s love special, it also lets them know you love them enough to prepare a little. 

Know Your Audience:

Odds are more than likely you have helped with the wedding preparations in some way. Maybe you helped address envelopes or were at some pre-wedding function. So, you should have a good idea of the guest list and if you need to keep it kid (and grandparent) friendly or if some slightly more adult humor is ok. In general, however, try to keep the raunchier jokes and stories for the hen and stag parties. There are just some stories Aunt Jeanie doesn’t need to hear. 

Keep It Short:

Most wedding speeches come between courses at the reception. So, while a 30 second speech is too short, 5 minutes or less is the perfect amount of time. This gives you time to tell some sweet story you have about when you knew the couple was meant to be, talk about how much you love them both and the power of their love, without keeping the catering staff (and other guests) waiting for the next course to be served. Plus, it will keep the background chatter down if you don’t go on for 20 minutes. 


Remember, as much as you may want to share personal stories about how you met the bride in high school in detention or the time you and the groom went to Cabo on spring break and got hammered, don’t. This speech isn’t about you and your relationship with either the bride or groom. It is about them. It is about celebrating their love. So, by all means, mention how you have known whomever you are standing up with forever and how much you love that person, just make sure the toast is about the love the couple has for each other and how you wish them a long and happy life together.  Also, be sure to speak from the heart and don’t try to get too funny or sentimental.  Sincerity is way better than sentimentality. 

An Autumn Wedding

While summer may be the most popular season to get married in, we personally think Autumn is the unsung hero when if comes to wedding seasons. Between the countless themes, amazing colour choices, better chances you will get the venue you want, plus, and let’s be honest here, much more tolerable weather, autumn can be a way better choice for everyone involved. So, let’s dive in and take a look at all the ways Autumn weddings are the best!

The Weather:

As the temperature drops a little during September and beyond, it opens up a whole realm of possibilities when it comes clothing options. Sure, there is a little higher chance of rain. However, there is also far less of a chance of heat stroke too. This means strapless dresses with fun shrugs for the wedding party are totally acceptable and you don’t have to worry about your favourite ladies overheating. And let’s not forget about what it means for choosing your dress. You can still go with lovely airy summery fabrics or start moving into lush gorgeous satins. It is really the best of everything without having to sacrifice comfort. Your guests will thank you too. If it is an outdoor wedding, they won’t be wilting in the summer heat. 

Themes Beyond Halloween:

Naturally, Halloween themed weddings pop into everyone’s mind when you mention you are getting married in Oct. And as much fun as those can be, there are so many other themes to choose from and make your wedding a one of a kind event. Why not embrace the nostalgia of years past and create a harvest themed wedding? You can use local produce and staples from around the world for your center pieces. Cornucopias filled with bright pumpkins, changing leaves, and tons of other typically autumn produce can create a truly unique esthetic for your wedding décor. 

All The Pretty Colours:

Don’t get us wrong, pastels can be beautiful. However, there is something planyourownwedding.org_autumnweddingabout the lush and majestic hues of autumn which adds a certain elegance to any wedding. Whether it is chocolate brown, eggplant, or burgundy, the autumn’s colour palette just seems to a little more sophisticated. Maybe it has to do with their association with nobility throughout history? Maybe it is just because they tend to be complimentary to almost any skin tone? You really can’t go wrong when picking wedding colours from the autumn spectrum. 

The Little Odds and Ends:

Some of the other perks to waiting a season to get married is all of the small things. You aren’t having to compete with tons of other couples. Wedding venues tend to be more available, their prices a little less, and more willing to work with couples to make it happen. There is also an entire flavor palette available of hearty foods, spicier dishes, and tastier cocktails to add that little extra thing to your special day. What’s not to love about autumn weddings?

Our blog this week: How To Dress Your Bridal Party!

With so many jokes about ugly bridesmaids’ dresses out there, it is amazing anyone agrees to be a part of the bridal party. While these jokes are based more on a select few choices from over the years, they seem to be one of the most enduring myths of being a part of being a bridesmaid. To combat this, we have been paying attention to the various fashion weeks offer suggestions on how to pick dresses which are bound to be flattering for every shape and size, while hopefully stilling being fashionable enough to wear again. So, lets dive in.

Bright Bold Colours:

It seems the colours for this up coming season are bright and bold, with reds, lush greens, deep blues, and strangely, electric neons taking center stage at many of the runway shows at the last few fashion weeks. This mean, with the exception of the neon, if you stick with the jewel tone versions of the other colours each member of your party is going to look great in them. Part of the reason why these hues are such staples of so many seasons and collections is that they tend to look good on nearly everyone. So, dare to pick deep a garnet red and pair with a lush sapphire blue. Not only will the combination be striking for decorations, each of your bridesmaids are bound to look stunning in your choice. 

Vintage Elegance: 

This season’s silhouette is more than a mod to the elegance of the 1950s and 1960s. Just like the brighter and bolder colour palette, working with the lines and shapes of these dresses are extremely flattering for most body shapes, especially if you chose a cinched waist with an a-line skirt. Part of why this works on so many body types is that if gives the illusion of that oh so desired hour glass figure. It also helps balance the body out, making the entire body look more proportional. A-line skirts also do the same thing. Since they skim and float away from the body, they cover “problem” areas and create the illusion of a balanced frame. 

Letting Them Choose: 

However, the best way to make sure everyone in your bridal party gets a dress they feel amazing in, is to simply tell them your colour and theme choices and let them choose their own dress. This is actually becoming increasingly popular. People know what works on their bodies and letting your bridesmaids pick out their own dress means they will be more comfortable, which will make everyone happier. Because lets face it, no one has the exact same body shape, so why not let the women you love the most pick something they will feel stunning in?

Wedding Favours

With how busy you are going to be on your big day, you might not have the chance to thank everyone for coming face to face. Wedding favours can be a great way to do just that, while also offering your guests a special keepsake. However, did you know these cute trinkets weren’t always given? Let’s take a look at the history of wedding favours and how they differ around the world. 

Renaissance England, France, and Italy: 

The first mention of wedding favours is in England during the 16th century. While they were little more than love knots, made from lace and ribbon. These were handed out to guests as a way to not just symbolize the everlasting love of the wedding couple, but also to bring love to the guests as well. The French and Italians gave their guests ornate boxes full of candies or little commemorative trinkets, which they call bonbonnieres. Even though they were originally handed out at any party, they soon because primarily wedding only gifts. 

Jordan Almonds: 

By The Victorian Era, Jordan almonds, or any other sort of sweet treat, planyourownwedding.org_favourswrapped in a decorative cloth became the vogue thing to give out. Consisting of five pieces of the goodies, it was said to represent the five wishes most guests wished to bestow on the couple: wealth, health, longevity, fertility, and happiness. These little packets of treats were a way for the couple to send that wish back to their guests. 

Personalized Mementos: 

While you still may get Jordan almonds, more and more couples are moving toward personalized wedding favours. Some of the most popular gifts are engraved glasses, little boxes with self-care products, or even flipflops for guests to slip into at the end of the night after dancing for hours. This is especially true in America, where the trend of super personalized gifts seems to be the way most couples go. 

Gifts From Around the World: 

However, some couples have not given up on their country’s traditional wedding presents. If you are going to an Italian wedding you still may receive a bonbonniere, full of lovely chocolates and a fantastic keepsake box. In Russia, you will probably get candles and a picture frame. Where as in Ireland, wedding bells are common to receive. And in India, wedding guests can expect to get a small hand-crafted elephant memento.

So even if it is an old school love knot, something personal, or a nod to your cultural heritage, it is sure to be a special treasure for your guests to remember the day you and your partner vowed to love each other forever. 

This weeks blog: Where To Seat Guests?

Trying to figure out where seat guests at your reception can be a stressful task. Sure, most of your guests will know each other but what about those friends from college you haven’t seen in a while or family members you are close who live four states over? Where do you seat them? Well don’t worry. We have some helpful hints to help you and make sure everyone is happy. 

Start With Family: 

Even if your parents are going to sit with you at the head table, your grandparents and extended family need a place to sit. While it is totally ok to seat your cool, hip graphic designer cousin with other young professionals they are bound to click with, try to keep grandma and grandpa with people they know or with your partner’s family of a similar age. This will make them feel more comfortable and will allow them to relax and have fun too.

Don’t Mix and Match Politics: 

Nobody wants a political yelling match at their wedding and most of us know a handful of people whose political ideologies differ from the rest of your friends and family. The best way to keep things civil is to seat people with similar political beliefs together. 

The Table 19 Fable: 

There is an old adage about table 19 being reserved for the people you never seating_by_Jane_Morrowthought would RSVP and you don’t really want at your wedding. Instead of feeding into this, make sure you only invite people you really want at your wedding. Sure, your second cousin or mailman may be disappointed to not get an invitation, but it is better to explain you could invite everyone you wanted to than having a negative wedding stereo-type at your wedding. 

Open Seating: 

You could simply do away with the seating plan all together. These are all people who love you and ant to share in your special day. That should be enough to help everyone bond and have some great conversations over dinner. They can share their favourite stories about you and how you met, and maybe even meet a new friend they never would have with an overly planned seating plan. 

One Last Note: 

Remember, it is your wedding and it should be a fun and light day. So, don’t worry too much about where people are going to sit. Simply enjoy getting the RSVPS and be thankful for how many people want to watch as you and your partner express your love for one another. That is really what the day is all about. 

(Photo by Jane Morrow)

Food And Wine: The Second Most Important Couple at Your Wedding.

Next to the beauty of the ceremony and how gorgeous the bride looked, the thing most people will remember and talk about at any wedding is the food and wine. It is really one of the highlights of the reception and most people feel a ton of pressure to get it right when planning their wedding. Although it may seem intimidating at first, it is quite simple. 

How to pick the perfect wines to go with your carefully chosen menu.

 It is more than likely you have heard the saying, “red meat, red wine. White meat, white wine”. While that is a good rule of thumb, it turns out it isn’t exactly right. There are certain bold whites which work well with red meat and sweeter reds which make chicken dishes shines. It turns out there are six basic flavours to know about when it comes to wine and what to pair them with. They are fats, acid, bitter, sweet, salt, and alcohol. Each adds its own special je ne sais qua to any meal. So, let’s take a look at which pairings work best together and which to avoid. 

Bitter and fats:

If you are serving a super fatty dish like steak or, say, a lamb stew, a nice, deep Malbec would pair perfectly with it. Not only does the fat from the food cut the bitterness of the wine a little, the wine will balance the fat of the dish out, so you experience some of the subtler flavours from both. 

However, stay away from pairing bitter wine with bitter foods. Anything flavoured with citrus will do nothing for the wine. Better go with a slightly sweeter wine or something acidic. 


Speaking of acid, acid pairs well with acid. If you have your heart set on your favourite vinaigrette dressing for the salad, best to pair it with what people in the know refer to as a crisp white wine. The acidity in each seems to help balance each other out, creating an enjoyable tartness. 

Acid also works well with high fatty dishes, for a lot of the reasons bitter and fats work well together. 

Sweet and Salty:

Yes, we are putting these two together, because who doesn’t love the complex palate of sweet and salty. It is what makes sea salt caramel so tasty or why chocolate covered peanuts are still such a hit. They just seem to bring out the best in each other. So, if you are having a cheese course, why not think about offering nice desert wine? Yum. 

And of course, sweet and sweet work well on every level. So when the cake comes out, make sure you have a tasty dessert wine on hand. 


You are probably thinking to yourself, “but wait, doesn’t all wine have alcohol in it?” and while that is very true, some contain more than others. Wines with higher alcohol contents are great for fatty meals you want people to slow down and really enjoy. So, if you are serving fillet mignon, think about pairing with something upward of 15% alcohol content. The tartness of the alcohol will highlight the cut of meat while encouraging people to take their time and taking pleasure in the food. 

One Last Thing:

Don’t forget to take the “weight” of the wine into account too. Full bodied wines tend not to pair well with light food and vice versa. So, pairing a full-bodied red with a veggie quiche just isn’t going to work just like a super light desert white wine isn’t going to work with pepper steak. 

For more helpful hints and a printable cheat sheets to help with wine and food pairings and so much more, sign up for our course on how to plan your own wedding. Available in both desk top and mobile versions, it is like having your own personal wedding planner available 24/7!