Something old….

 We have all heard the old rhyme “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue” when it comes to things a bride needs on her wedding day to bring luck to her marriage. However, how many of us have thought about the history and meaning behind this old wives’ tale? Let’s take a look at what each line means and ways you can incorporate it all into your wedding wardrobe. 

Something Old:

The first line is all about remembering the ties to the bride and her past. It Our first blog of the year symbolizes the things which made her the woman she has become, which brought her to this special day. There are so many things which can be used for this part of the poem: a family heirloom, a photo of the family sown into the dress, or anything else from her childhood works. 

Something New:

This is of course about the new life the bride is embarking on. It is all about the partnership she will have with her husband and all the ups and downs which go with that. This is probably the easiest part of the rhyme to fit into the day. The most obvious choice is the dress, but it can also be the veil or accessories. 

Something Borrowed:

This object is all about bringing the luck and stability of another marriage into the one about to take place. Usually borrowed from a friend or family member who is happily married with the hope some of that happiness will rub off on the new couple. Choices for this trinket can be anything from earrings or a necklace to the garter. 

Something Blue:

The colour blue has long been associated with faithfulness, love, and honesty. These are all traits which are present in the best marriage. So, it is no surprise this is one of the items included in this little ditty. There are a ton of different ways to make sure you have something blue in your outfit. From shoes, to a blue ribbon holding your bouquet together to your dress, if you are feeling really bold and want to combine two things in one. 

One Last Bit:

Sometimes there is an extra line thrown in for good measure: “and a sixpence in her shoe”. This is to make sure there is wealth, or at least enough money to keep the couple comfortable. While many bridal stores do sell sixpence pieces, placing any silver coin in the shoe will work just as well. 

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A New Year, A New Look, A New Approach

At Plan Your Own Wedding we are dedicated to helping you plan the wedding of your dreams, while creating the best, most informative wedding content we can. Between helpful supplemental information on our course, fun historical facts about weddings, or great ways to pay respect to your cultural heritage in this age of inter-cultural marriages and global expansion, we have always tried to make sure our blogs were fun informative reads. This is why we are going to be offering more varied content and shaking things up a bit in 2019. 

A sneak preview

There will still be the all the useful blog posts and social media hints you have planyourownwedding.org A toast to the new yearcome to expect, and love, from us. There will be plenty of great ideas on how you make one of the most important days of your lives as unique and special as your love. However, we will also be adding ways to stay connected to each other as you are planning your wedding and beyond, how to keep friendships strong during the months leading up to the big day, and insights into wedding superstitions and symbolism. 

We think planning a wedding is about more than just decorations, dresses, and food. We think it is about the joining of two lives, celebrating your love with those nearest and dearest to you both, and creating new spins on old traditions. So, look for lots of new and fun content to help you do just that in the coming year. 

Happy New Year from all of us at Plan Your Own Wedding. Here is to a romantic and informative 2019!

Couples resolutions

The New Year is just around the corner. This is usually the time of year most people reflect on the lessons they learned over the 365 days and what they want to carry with them into the next 365. People start to plan how to improve themselves, to enrich the lives of those they love, and in some small way make the world a better place than it was before. Here are some ideas on resolutions, words to embrace, or even just little tips to strengthen your relationship and spread a little joy, peace, and good will over the next year. 

Volunteer: 

There have been multiple studies which have shown that not only does being reflectivevolunteering help the community in general, whether it is assisting the elderly, cleaning up parks, or helping in animal adoption, but it also leads to a deeper sense of peace and wellbeing in the volunteers themselves. Find something you are both passionate about and give your time, be it an urban gardening group or a mentoring program. Not only will you be giving back, but you will be building memories and creating a sense of peace in your relationship. 

Work on Those Little Annoyances: 

We all have them. That one little thing we do which drives our partner crazy. Maybe is never putting your socks in the dirty clothes bin or using a new cup every time you get a glass of water or want some tea. What better way to show the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with how much they mean than by actively working on that one thing you know drives them up the wall? After all, it is the little things in life which mean the most and less nagging means a more peaceful relationship, and who doesn’t want that?

Healthy Habits:

Working out. Eating better. Practicing mindfulness. These are regular resolutions for the new year which often get left behind as soon as February starts. However, if people have another person working toward these same goals, they are more likely to follow through with them. So, why not sit down and plan out healthier meals you can cook together 3 times a week or find some sort of physical activity you both enjoy. Even if all you do is take a 20-minute walk together every other day you get the chance to spend time creating healthy habits and spending time together. What could be better than that?

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Couple’s Bucket List:

When you are planning a wedding, it is easy to get so wrapped up in all the details of place settings, flower choices, the ceremony and the reception that you forget to spend time connecting and building a strong foundation for married life. This can lead to strains on your relationship and no one wants to start the rest of your lives together with strain on it. So, we have come up with a list of things you can do as a couple to take a break and reconnect with each other. 

Unplug:

This one is probably the easiest and most do able one on this list. Take a break planyourownwedding.org-bucketlist
from email, Facebook, and any wedding related phone calls for 24 hrs. Spend that time talking to each other about work or your passions or your favourite television shows or the latest book by your favourite author. Not only will this help you remember why you fell in love in the first place, it can help you come back to wedding planning refreshed and ready to go. 

Have A Spa Day: 

While this is a little more pricey, it could definitely be worth it. Carrying around all the stress from meeting with florist, caterers, wedding dress shopping, and all the other little odds and ends from wedding planning can really do a number on your body. By getting couple’s massages or facials, or even just taking a steam bath together, you can unwind while spending some quality time with your future spouse, and maybe even learn some tricks to help relax later.

Do a Food Tour: 

Now hear us out. We understand you might be sick of tastings after tastings after tastings. However, by doing a food tour, especially if your city is known for a specific sort of cuisine, you can break the tasting rut and maybe even discover a new food you love. Maybe you have been dying to try Indian food? Or Maybe there is a great new Peruvian place which just opened? Or maybe you are tired to your bones of fancy food and just want diner food? Whatever it is, it can be a great way to take a break, try something new, and talk to your partner about what you are sharing. 

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Elopements

There is something very romantic about the idea of simply deciding to get married and going down to the court house or running off to Vegas Plus, for many couples the idea of small wedding, with just the two of them, pledging their lives to each other is the only way to go. And while elopements may be far more common practice now, this wasn’t always the case. Throughout history and literature when couples eloped it was a far more scandalous affair. So, join us as we look at some elopements throughout history.

The Victorian Literary Power Couple:

Elizabeth Barret Browning and Robert Browning, after a long and passionate planyourownwedding.org - elopementscourtship, eloped in Sept of 1846. Elizabeth’s father was strict and refused to allow any of his 12 children to get married, this was especially true for Elizabeth who had been sickly for most of her life. So, after a year of writing back and forth after having met in 1845, the couple ran off to Italy for Elizabeth’s health and married once they arrived and lived in Florence until Elizabeth’s death in 1861. Even though it created quite a scandal in England, the couple still managed to have successful careers and remain two of the most beloved British poets of all time. 

The Queen Who Almost Wasn’t:

Unlike the Brownings, this elopement is up for debate. Some historians believe it took place, where as others believe it was stopped before it happened. However, either way, it is clear Ann Boylan and Henry Percy had every intention of getting married. The couple met at court were Ann was a lady in waiting to Catherine of Aragon and Henry Percy was heir to the most powerful Earldom in England. Apparently, they were very much in love, however, Henry’s family was much more powerful than Ann’s and King Henry VIII had already taken a liking to her. So, when their plans were discovered, either before or after the marriage, Cardinal Woolsey put an end to it. And the rest, as they say, is history. 

Elopement, Jane Austen Style:

Young couples running off to Gretna Green is a reoccurring theme in Jane Austen novels. At least three of her novels feature couples running away to this infamous town just over the border in Scotland. During Regency England it became the go to place when couples wanted to elope. Instead of the stricter laws surrounding marriage in England, a couple could simply show up in Gretna Green, declare themselves to be residents, and take their vows in front of two witnesses, usually the local blacksmiths, and they were married. These “unusual marriages” as they were called continued from 1754, when it became illegal for anyone under the age of 21 to get married without parental consent, until 1856 when a 21-day residence in the town was required. One of these blacksmith priests preformed over 5,000 wedding ceremonies. 

Today:

Eloping is hardly the scandal inducing event it once was. In fact, for the more budget conscious couple, it can be a great way to have a romantic and intimate ceremony. If you want to know more about how to have the perfect elopement, why not enroll in our course and check out our module on eloping, which is coming in early 2019. 

Holiday Weddings

Summer has been the traditional wedding season for centuries but getting married during the holiday season definitely has its perks. In our more recent blogs we have gone over specifics of how to host a winter wedding, from keeping the wedding party warm, to how to plan the perfect winter menu, to how to keep guests toasty and happy. Now, let”s look at some of the other reasons why getting married during the holiday season is a good idea.

People Are Already Gathered:

One of the major bonuses of getting married during the Holiday Season is theplanyourownwedding.org-winter wedding fact so many families and friends are already together. Many people use their vacation days at work for the holidays, giving them more time with their families, especially those who live in other cities, states, or countries. So, by having your wedding close to the holidays, your guests might not have to take extra days off to attend your special day.

Romantic Decorations:

There is something naturally romantic about the holidays, especially if you live in a place where you have white winters. However, even without snow, holiday decorations can add a ton of romance to your wedding décor. Between the abundance of easy to find twinkling fairy lights and sparkling snow inspired decorations, along with gorgeous deep coloured flowers available in the winter months, you will be able to create a winter wonderland with ease. 

Deeper Flavours:

In a previous blog post we discussed how getting married in colder months offers a ton of great menu options for your reception, and it’s true. While the summer months offer a great selection of lighter fare, the holiday season can be a great time to spice up your menu. It is gives you the perfect opportunity for to show off your foodie side and wow your guests with variety of complex flavour combinations. 

 

A guide to engagement rings

While engagement rings have traditionally been given as a love token and to signify the upcoming marriage, diamonds have only become the industry standard within the last century. Thanks to a very successful marketing campaign by the De Beers company, diamonds overtook other gemstones as the symbol of everlasting love. However, more and more couples are breaking from this and choosing more unique and personal rings. planyourownwedding.org-rings

Sapphires

Sapphires have been experiencing a surge in popularity, thanks in part to Kate Middleton’s, which once belonged to Princess Diana, engagement ring of sapphire and diamonds. However, they have been a favorite since the time of ancient Persia, who believed the blue colour was due to it reflecting the sky. Thought to symbolize wisdom, good fortune, faithfulness, and sincerity, sapphires appeal to more grounded romantic couples. Plus, as one of the harder stones available, they don’t scratch easily, meaning they don’t need to be replaced often and will appeal to couples who like the idea of a stone as long lasting as their love. 

Rubies

For couples who are even bolder, rubies may be just what they are looking for. The rich red of the stone is eye catching and a definite conversation piece. However, more than that, the stone itself is thought to represent eternity and strength, making it a perfect choice as a physical symbol of the promise they are making to each other, especially when paired with smaller diamonds which, of course, have come to embody love. 

Customize

As weddings become more personalized and unique, so do engagement rings. As a promise of the journey to come, more couples want rings which represent their individual love and the qualities their story embody. For some inspirations – why not check out our Pinterest board on unusual wedding and engagement rings?

 

Winter weddings: how to keep your guests warm

When planning a winter wedding, it isn’t enough to just think about what will keep you warm or to have a heartier menu. Making sure your guests have all they need to fight off a chill lets people know how happy you are they have chosen to join you on one of the most important days of your life. Here are some great and thoughtful ways to keep your dearest family and friends warm at your winter wedding. 

Welcome Drinks: 

One way to help people warm up, relax, and get ready to celebrate is to have warming welcoming drinks ready for everyone as they enter the venue. Having a selection of hot chocolate, spiced cider, and mulled wine is a great way to make sure there is something for everyone. If you want to make the drink extra special, why not have commemorative cups made for guests to take home with them as a party favour? 

Portable Heaters: 

If the venue is chilly, make sure there are heaters under each table. Warming the feet up is a great way to make sure the rest of the body is toasty too. You can also have larger space heaters in the corners. This will make sure your guests stay warm, while giving people enough room to mingle, dance, and have a good time. 

Fuzzy Throw Blankets: 

There is just something so snuggly and warming about wrapping up in a flannel throw. Place some blankets behind each chair for guests to use if they get cold. Just like the cups from the welcome drinks, you can monogram the blankets as a special keepsake from your wedding.  

Signature Cocktail: 

Last but not least, why not come up with a warm cocktail to serve your guests planyourownwedding.org-cocktailin the commemorative cups from the welcome drink? This can be a lovely way to put a special twist on an old favourite, while helping to warm up guests from the inside. For an extra treat, give them the recipe so they can recreate the drink at home for winter gatherings of theirs. It is a lovely way to share your love with the world. 

Winter weddings: The Menu

Winter weddings offer the chance to get a little bolder a little more daring in your menu choices. Colder weather means you can offer guests hearty meals with some spice and kick to them. It allows you to show off your inner foodie while warming people up from the inside out. So, let’s take a look at some great winter wedding food choices to help keep people toasty when it’s cold outside and knock their sock off with flavour. 

Soups Instead of Salads: 

Sure, salads may be what pops into most people’s minds when they thinkwww.planyourownwedding.org - winter menus about the first course at a wedding reception. However, soups can be a great way to start a meal and add a little extra warmth. While chicken noodle maybe the ultimate comfort food, why not wake up people’s appetite with something like pumpkin and ginger soup or a spicy fish soup?  However, if comfort food is the way you want to go, why not go super old school and try a classic tomato and basil soup with grilled cheese sliders? You can even add a little extra by using pepper jack cheese or something a little fancier like brie to really wow your guests and make it really your own. 

Classic Mains With A Twist: 

Instead of just the typical chicken or fish option, why not offer up something a little fancier like pheasant or venison? These gamey meats are slightly
heartier than your typical fare and can be spruced up with herbs like turmeric or cumin, which are known for their warming properties. For vegetarians, cheese stuffed ravioli is always a popular choice, or you could go really exotic and offer a vegetable curry or a mushroom risotto, which is oh so ala mode right now. Also, don’t be afraid to play with your sides too. Roasted root vegetables or mashed cauliflower can be fun options instead of steamed broccoli or spinach. 

 

Sometimes Smaller Is Better:  

As we have said before, sometimes small bites are a better and more cost-effective way to go than large sit-down meals. Plus, it gives you a chance to play with more flavours and have a wider variety of options for your non-meat-eating guests. Think Spanish style tapas, so your guests can pick and choose what they want to eat. You can even offer foods from around the globe, a little Mexican here, Asian fusion there, French finger foods over there. It is a wonderful way to show off your passion for international cuisine. 

Just like weddings in warmer months, besides making sure no guest leaves hungry, the point of choosing your menu is to have fun and create a memorable experience for your guests. Happy tastings!